This topic comes up a lot in my circle and I figured it's worth getting real opinions from people here.
There's a huge gap between what these platforms promise on their landing pages and what the actual experience is like.
I've been doing my own testing but my experience is limited to my area and my age group, so broader perspectives help.
- Check if the site has been mentioned in any data breach reports
- Use a throwaway email for sign-up
- Look for real activity signals — last login dates, post history, etc.
- Never share your real phone number in early conversations
- Test the free tier thoroughly before paying anything
Even negative experiences are useful — helps narrow down what to avoid.
One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Luvdate — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.