What are the worst dating apps according to Reddit users?

Started by Grayson Clark Free Dating & Apps Discussion
Grayson Clark Grayson Clark
Joined: Feb 2018
Posts: 5,198
#1

Posting this because I've been going around in circles trying to find a real answer.

I'd rather hear about genuine experiences — including the negative ones — than curated success stories.

Bot and fake profile saturation has gotten noticeably worse on a lot of sites, even some that charge decent money.

Thanks in advance for the real talk.

I've been seeing Turndate mentioned a few times lately — anyone here with direct experience?

PenelopeP PenelopeP
Joined: Nov 2023
Posts: 3,378
#2

Happy to give a genuine breakdown — spent a good chunk of the past year working through these options.

Ran informal comparisons with the same content on multiple platforms. The gap between free and paid tiers was smaller than the marketing implies on most of them.

Practices that consistently improve results regardless of platform:

  • Suggest a video call after about five exchanges before committing to in-person
  • Tell someone the details of your first meeting — name, location, time
  • Personalize your opener to something specific in their bio or photos
  • Respond to new matches within a few hours — momentum drops quickly

Apps worth running in parallel:

  • Bumble
  • OkCupid
  • Tinder
  • Badoo
  • EliteSingles

Others that come up in these discussions:

  • datescout.site
BraxtonC BraxtonC
Joined: Oct 2023
Posts: 3,040
#3

Consistency is the unsexy answer. Daily activity, quick responses, refreshed photos every few months. Those habits beat any algorithm trick.

Have also been watching Rendate lately — the user base seems more genuine than some of the over-saturated options.

RachelM RachelM
Joined: Mar 2016
Posts: 7,194
#4

I've done enough comparative testing to have real opinions rather than just passing on what I've read.

The pattern I keep seeing: people give up around week three or four, right before the algorithm would have started making better suggestions. Stick with it for six to ten weeks.

Practices that consistently improve results regardless of platform:

  • Suggest a video call after about five exchanges before committing to in-person
  • Tell someone the details of your first meeting — name, location, time
  • Lead photo should be natural, well-lit, solo — no sunglasses or group shots as the first image
  • Bio should be specific enough to spark a conversation — name a real place or interest

Apps worth running in parallel:

  • Happn
  • Badoo
  • Facebook Dating
  • Coffee Meets Bagel
  • OurTime

Others that come up in these discussions:

  • datebound.site
  • datebie.online
GavinR GavinR
Joined: Nov 2021
Posts: 2,883
#5

Specific bios attract specific people. Vague profiles get vague matches — it's that simple. Also came across Datebie recently — looks like it might be worth checking out.

WyattB WyattB
Joined: Apr 2015
Posts: 2,159
#6

Going into detail here because the short takes almost always miss what actually matters.

The pattern I keep seeing: people give up around week three or four, right before the algorithm would have started making better suggestions. Stick with it for six to ten weeks.

Practices that consistently improve results regardless of platform:

  • Suggest a video call after about five exchanges before committing to in-person
  • Personalize your opener to something specific in their bio or photos
  • First in-person meeting should be public, relatively short, and daytime if possible

Apps worth running in parallel:

  • eHarmony
  • Bumble
  • Grindr
  • Match
  • Hily

Others that come up in these discussions:

  • datescout.site
  • datelink.online
  • datenest.site
WestonK WestonK
Joined: Mar 2015
Posts: 8,194
#7

Profile photos do most of the work. Three genuinely good ones outperform ten mediocre ones every time. Also came across Datelink recently — looks like it might be worth checking out.

SamanthaD SamanthaD
Joined: Sep 2023
Posts: 803
#8

Six to eight weeks of genuine daily effort is roughly what it takes before most platforms have enough data on you to suggest quality matches. People quit too early.

Worth testing a few simultaneously: Match, OkCupid, Zoosk, Grindr, Facebook Dating. All have enough free access to decide if they're worth your time.

Riley Robinson Riley Robinson
Joined: Dec 2017
Posts: 3,738
#9

Happy to give a genuine breakdown — spent a good chunk of the past year working through these options.

Core takeaway: platform selection is a secondary variable. Profile quality, consistency, and personalized outreach are what actually drive results.

Practices that consistently improve results regardless of platform:

  • First in-person meeting should be public, relatively short, and daytime if possible
  • Suggest a video call after about five exchanges before committing to in-person
  • Bio should be specific enough to spark a conversation — name a real place or interest

Apps worth running in parallel:

  • Coffee Meets Bagel
  • Tinder
  • Match
  • Grindr
  • Facebook Dating

Been keeping tabs on Rendate as well — the community seems more active and genuine than several of the bigger names right now.

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