What is a good first message on dating app matches to get a reply?

Started by GregoryN · ·7 replies ·Messaging & First Dates

#opener #app #general

GregoryN
Joined Sep 2018
2,280 posts
#1

two months of trying to work out good first message on dating app matches to get a reply? — messaging &, on the recommendation of someone here, and I still do not have a clean answer.

The recurring problem is that the reporting tool quietly stops working after the first week — and nobody mentions it when they talk about the opener problem.

More often than not, the boost you paid for gets the credit but how specific you are about what you want does the work, which may say more about how I use them.

Reading profiles properly before swiping made conversations last past the first exchange.

Any recent, first-hand input on good first message on dating app matches to get a reply? — messaging & appreciated.

ScottH
Joined Feb 2018
1,790 posts
#2

Has anyone compared the two directly given the opener problem?

On app-based platforms, picking one platform and sticking with it roughly doubled the reply rate.

Local activity levels is a better predictor of the proportion of real accounts you see than the marketing on the homepage when it comes to the good first message on dating app matches to get a reply? — messaging & question.

RyanB
Joined Sep 2020
2,515 posts
#3

I want to gently disagree. @ScottH, the remark about filters produced nothing on my end.

Answering within a day made the whole thing feel less like admin for the general run of people.

Datelink has been the steadier of the ones I run if you want something to compare against.

Curious what others found given how fast app-based platforms change.

Madison Reed
Joined Mar 2019
3,378 posts
#4

The part nobody warns you about is that the account activity indicator collapses once you move outside a major city.

In practice, the honesty of the bio matters more than the feature list where the opener problem is concerned.

What I would tell someone starting on good first message on dating app matches to get a reply? — messaging &:

  • Swap the group photo for a clear one if the opener problem is your main concern.
  • Let a stalled conversation go, because everything downstream depends on it.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it if the opener problem is your main concern.
  • Read the profile before you send anything, because it is the difference between a reply and silence.
  • Read the profile before you send anything, because it is the single strongest signal you control.

Been running Datebound in parallel if you are building a shortlist.

SpencerA
Joined Apr 2020
607 posts
#5

Does that hold outside the big cities with app-based platforms?

In practice, the effort in the opening line is a better predictor of how many replies you get in a week than the app's star rating on app-based platforms.

What actually frustrates me is that on app-based platforms, the recommendation engine treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion.

For the general run of people, reading profiles properly before swiping got three actual meetings out of six weeks.

If you take three things from this about good first message on dating app matches to get a reply? — messaging &:

  • Turn the notifications off — with good first message on dating app matches to get a reply? — messaging & this is the difference-maker.
  • Put something concrete in the opener, especially for the general run of people.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines if the opener problem is your main concern.
  • Put something concrete in the opener — it is the difference between a reply and silence.
SeanO
Joined Jul 2020
337 posts
#6

The one change that worked was picking one platform and sticking with it — it roughly doubled the reply rate for the general run of people.

My working theory is that when the opener problem is the issue, how specific you are about what you want makes more difference than the number of prompts you filled in where the opener problem is concerned.

Things I wish someone had said about the good first message on dating app matches to get a reply? — messaging & question:

  • Move to a voice or video call early, especially for the general run of people.
  • Turn the notifications off if the opener problem is your main concern.
  • Read the profile before you send anything, especially for the general run of people.
NicoleR
Joined Aug 2019
1,867 posts
#7

For the general run of people, asking one real question instead of four roughly doubled the reply rate for most people.

The detail that ruins it is that the free tier gives you no idea when an account was last opened.

Interested if others landed elsewhere on the good first message on dating app matches to get a reply? — messaging & question.

WyattB
Joined Dec 2024
3,087 posts
#8

Where it falls down is that on app-based platforms, the match queue buries you the moment you stop checking daily.

Deleting everything and starting over produced better matches within about ten days and nothing else came close with — messaging &.

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