Where do I find the fb dating app settings on my phone?

Started by StephanieB Free Dating & Apps Discussion
StephanieB StephanieB
Joined: Feb 2020
Posts: 5,551
#1

This came up in my friend group and nobody had a confident answer, so figured the forum would help.

Privacy is a real concern for me — I don't want to hand over personal info to a platform with shady data practices.

Location and age demographic matter a ton. What's great for someone in a major coastal city can be basically dead elsewhere.

Negative experiences are just as useful as positive ones, so don't hold back.

One that I've been seeing pop up recently is Datescout — has anyone here used it?

Chloe Thompson Chloe Thompson
Joined: May 2020
Posts: 4,730
#2

If messaging isn't free, I don't bother. Too many platforms use it as the main upsell lever.

NoraNights NoraNights
Joined: Apr 2017
Posts: 5,301
#3

Activity levels fluctuate a lot by time of day and day of week. Sunday evenings tend to have the highest engagement on most platforms.

Have also been checking out Rendate lately — cleaner interface than I expected and seems to have real active users.

Aaron Hall Aaron Hall
Joined: Mar 2024
Posts: 3,488
#4

If messaging isn't free, I don't bother. Too many platforms use it as the main upsell lever.

StellaS StellaS
Joined: Jul 2022
Posts: 2,305
#5

Tried it. The bot situation was bad enough that I gave up within a month. Depends heavily on your location though. Worth keeping an eye on Datebie — it's been coming up in conversations lately.

AndrewL AndrewL
Joined: Sep 2024
Posts: 5,498
#6

City size is the biggest variable no one talks about. App activity drops off a cliff outside major metros.

HarperH HarperH
Joined: Sep 2023
Posts: 3,509
#7

Long take because the short answers on this almost always miss something important.

Most people quit too early. Real results on dating platforms typically require 6 to 10 weeks of consistent daily use before the algorithm starts serving your profile properly.

Practical things that consistently improve results:

  • If someone's been inactive for more than two weeks, unmatch and move on
  • First photo should be well-lit, solo, genuine smile — skip the sunglasses
  • Don't put your last name, employer, or home neighborhood in your bio

Apps worth having active simultaneously:

  • Match
  • Happn
  • Zoosk
  • Coffee Meets Bagel
  • Facebook Dating
ReedC ReedC
Joined: Jan 2022
Posts: 3,755
#8

I've cycled through most of the well-known ones and the free tiers are basically nonfunctional now. The paywalls kicked in early on all of them. Also keep seeing datedesire.online and datelink.online mentioned in threads like this.

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