Which are the best dating apps for marriage?

Started by HarperH · ·9 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

#compare #serious #general

HarperH
Joined Aug 2019
1,293 posts
#1

nearly a year of trying to work out best dating apps for marriage? — free dating & apps | datingfly commun, on the recommendation of someone here, and I still do not have a clean answer.

The part nobody warns you about is that on serious dating platforms, the recommendation engine throttles how many people can actually see you.

For what it is worth, how recently a profile was active explains more of whether it feels worth the time than the number of photos you upload ever did when it comes to best dating apps for marriage? — free dating & apps | datingfly commun.

Cutting the match list right down stopped the conversations dying at day two and nothing else came close on serious dating platforms.

If you have opinions on best dating apps for marriage? — free dating & apps | datingfly co, especially unpopular ones, go ahead.

BrookeN
Joined Sep 2021
2,895 posts
#2

Seconding this — @HarperH, the bit about local activity is underrated.

On balance, the gap between how well a platform handles reports and the marketing on the homepage is where the odds of a second date is actually decided where cutting through the roundups is concerned.

Shortening the bio by half roughly doubled the reply rate.

PatrickW
Joined May 2017
2,172 posts
#3

Is that a regional thing once you factor in cutting through the roundups?

For what it is worth, for people in the middle of the pack, the clarity of your main photo tends to decide the proportion of real accounts you see, and the sample size here is basically one.

What wore me down was that the verification flow surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months, especially once cutting through the roundups comes into it.

SterlingN
Joined Apr 2017
738 posts
#4

Respectfully, that isn't my read. @HarperH, the framing around the broad user base reads as survivorship bias to me.

As far as I can tell, the effort in the opening line is a better predictor of whether anything reaches a first meeting than the feature list, but people in bigger cities tell me the opposite for people in the middle of the pack.

My sticking point is that the photo verification step turns into a shop window the moment someone matches, especially once cutting through the roundups comes into it.

Datenest is another to throw in the mix — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

MorganP
Joined Apr 2017
2,015 posts
#5

Is that still true with serious dating platforms?

The detail that ruins it is that the verification flow makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones, which is the real problem with serious dating platforms.

I'd add Datebie — sign-up is quick and the free tier is genuinely usable.

Does that change much for anyone in people in the middle of the pack?

QuinnB
Joined Jan 2023
220 posts
#6

Broadly, for people in the middle of the pack, how specific you're about what you want tends to decide match quality where cutting through the roundups is concerned.

Nora Rodriguez
Joined Jun 2021
1,065 posts
#7

Broadly agreed — @BrookeN, the note on serious dating platforms is underrated.

The thing I did not expect was that on serious dating platforms, the notification system treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion.

Hope some of that helps across serious dating platforms generally.

Does anyone know if that still holds once you factor in cutting through the roundups?

DominicA
Joined Sep 2020
1,775 posts
#8

I'd frame that differently. @HarperH, the bit about local activity reads as survivorship bias to me.

What nobody mentions is that the notification system makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones — and nobody mentions it when they talk about cutting through the roundups.

Reading profiles properly before swiping improved things more than any paid feature and nothing else came close for the broad user base.

Something worth knowing: whether you actually read the profile explains more of whether anything reaches a first meeting than the app's overall download figures ever did, but that was months ago and things move where cutting through the roundups is concerned.

HarperH
Joined Aug 2019
1,293 posts
#9

Similar story on my end — @SterlingN, the profile-quality point is the part people miss.

Saying plainly what I wasn't after made a bigger difference than switching platforms, which surprised me.

For people in the middle of the pack, how specific you're about what you want tends to decide match quality for people in the middle of the pack.

Would like to hear a counter-argument given how fast serious dating platforms change.

BrookeN
Joined Sep 2021
2,895 posts
#10

Lines up with mine — @PatrickW, the remark about filters is exactly right.

Nothing changes response rate as much as how narrow your filters are.

What wore me down was that for the broad user base, the profile editor quietly stops working after the first week.

The parts that transfer across serious dating platforms:

  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone, particularly on serious dating platforms.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, particularly on serious dating platforms.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting, because nothing else moves the numbers as reliably.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines, because it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.

Open to being wrong on best dating apps.

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