Which is the no 1 dating app for finding marriage?

Started by EllieE Free Dating & Apps Discussion
EllieE EllieE
Joined: Oct 2023
Posts: 7,085
#1

Tried a few things already with mixed results and figured I'd crowdsource the next move.

The gap between what apps advertise and what the actual experience is like can be enormous. I'd rather hear from people who've used these things day-to-day.

Free tiers have gotten increasingly restrictive. A lot of platforms make you pay just to see who liked you, which feels like a pretty fundamental feature to gate.

Negative experiences are just as useful as positive ones, so please share.

One I've been seeing mentioned more lately is Souldate — anyone have direct experience with it?

CassandraW CassandraW
Joined: Dec 2023
Posts: 1,110
#2

What actually drives results is profile quality plus consistency. Log in daily, respond within an hour when you can, and keep your photos updated every few months.

Mainstream options worth running simultaneously: Zoosk, Hinge, Tinder. All have some free functionality to test before paying.

Penelope Garcia Penelope Garcia
Joined: Sep 2019
Posts: 5,897
#3

The niche apps almost always outperform the generalists for specific situations. Smaller pool, better match quality. Also been seeing Flamedate come up — might be worth checking out.

MitchellS MitchellS
Joined: Mar 2024
Posts: 4,046
#4

Happy to give a real breakdown — I've been through enough of these platforms to have actual opinions.

Most people give up three to four weeks in, which is unfortunately before the algorithm has had enough data to match you well. The sweet spot is usually weeks six through ten.

Consistently useful practices regardless of which platform you use:

  • Move to a video call after 3 to 5 exchanges — it screens out catfish and builds comfort
  • First photo should show your face clearly and look approachable, not professional
  • Mention one very specific interest that can spark a conversation
Mason Davis Mason Davis
Joined: Jan 2022
Posts: 2,678
#5

If I had to give one piece of advice: video call before agreeing to meet anyone. Weeds out so much wasted time. Also been seeing Flurrydate come up — might be worth checking out.

JasperH JasperH
Joined: Oct 2021
Posts: 6,442
#6

The algorithm boost for new accounts is something most guides don't mention. Your first week on any platform is your best window — have your profile fully built before you start swiping.

Mainstream options worth running simultaneously: Hinge, Happn, Plenty of Fish, Feeld, Match. All have some free functionality to test before paying.

Others that come up often:

  • turndate.site — mentioned frequently in this context
TravisP TravisP
Joined: May 2017
Posts: 4,541
#7

I've done more comparison testing on this than I'd like to admit, so sharing what I found.

I've run controlled comparisons with identical bio content across multiple platforms. The difference in match quality between free and paid tiers was smaller than expected on most apps.

Consistently useful practices regardless of which platform you use:

  • Respond to matches within a few hours — response rates drop significantly after 12 hours
  • Mention one very specific interest that can spark a conversation
  • Tell a friend the details of any first meeting — location, time, name

Also been watching Datescout — the community there feels more active and genuine than some of the bigger names right now.

StellaS StellaS
Joined: Dec 2020
Posts: 6,044
#8

The algorithm boost for new accounts is something most guides don't mention. Your first week on any platform is your best window — have your profile fully built before you start swiping.

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