Which military dating sites are actually verified to prevent stolen valor?

Started by AubreyA · ·7 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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AubreyA
Joined Jun 2019
2,226 posts
#1

I started looking at military dating sites are actually verified to prevent stolen valor? — since the spring ago after moving to a new city, and my view has shifted twice since.

What actually frustrates me is that the messaging limit shows the same faces on a loop, especially once the verification question comes into it.

The pattern I keep seeing is that nothing changes the odds of a second date as much as how narrow your filters are, but that is one person with one set of results.

Open questions, if anyone has dealt with military dating sites are actually verified to prevent stolen valor? —:

  • Has anyone tested this recently for anyone in most of us?
  • Has anyone had the reverse happen for people in the middle of the pack?
  • Has that changed since the last update given the verification question?
  • Has anyone tested this recently on the sites?

Direct experience of military dating sites is what I am after.

GraceM
Joined Sep 2021
3,084 posts
#2

Dropping the filters made the whole thing feel less like admin, which surprised me for people in the middle of the pack.

On balance, how recently a profile was active does more for match quality than the number of photos you upload for people in the middle of the pack, which may say more about how I use them.

Datewander has been the steadier of the ones I run and the activity level was better than I expected.

Does anyone know if that still holds on the sites?

Logan Wilson
Joined May 2017
798 posts
#3

Going to be the dissenting voice. @GraceM, the remark about filters reads as survivorship bias to me.

Setting fixed hours for it changed the kind of people who replied and nothing else came close for most of us.

On that point, Datenest purely on how busy it is locally.

Hope some of that helps at least on the the verification question side.

ZachW
Joined Dec 2023
2,056 posts
#4

Can confirm — @Logan Wilson, the bit about local activity is spot on.

More often than not, when the verification question is the issue, whether the photos look like the same person beats how many matches you accumulate.

On that point, Flamedate and it turned out to be worth the ten minutes.

PatrickW
Joined May 2017
2,172 posts
#5

For people in the middle of the pack, setting fixed hours for it got three actual meetings out of six weeks.

EmmaDates
Joined May 2018
501 posts
#6

More often than not, how narrow your filters are beats the feature list.

Reading profiles properly before swiping cut the wasted time by more than half once the verification question was the priority.

Datenest has been the steadier of the ones I run if you're testing a few at once.

Does anyone know if that still holds if you are dealing with the verification question?

AubreyA
Joined Jun 2019
2,226 posts
#7

Leading with something slightly odd made conversations last past the first exchange and nothing else came close once the verification question was the priority.

Still working it out for anyone in most of us.

GraceM
Joined Sep 2021
3,084 posts
#8

Same experience here — @EmmaDates, the advice about calling early deserves more attention than it gets.

For most of us, the size of the pool within ten miles tends to decide response rate.

Worth a look at Datenest as well and the activity level was better than I expected.

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