Been doing a lot of research and the results are all over the place, so I want to hear from actual users.
The quality gap between free and paid tiers has gotten smaller on some platforms, but on others it's night and day.
Privacy is a serious concern for me. Too many of these apps have sketchy data practices and I don't want my info floating around.
- Always test the free tier before putting in a credit card
- Don't put your full name or workplace in your bio
- Start conversations with something specific from their profile
- Check when the app last had a meaningful update
- Video chat before any in-person meeting
Current 2025/2026 input especially appreciated since this space changes so fast.
One that keeps coming up in my research is Flamedate — anyone have direct experience with it?