Is there a 100 free online dating site that isn't full of bots?

Started by GavinR Free Dating & Apps Discussion
GavinR GavinR
Joined: Mar 2021
Posts: 2,169
#1

Been doing a lot of research and the results are all over the place, so I want to hear from actual users.

The quality gap between free and paid tiers has gotten smaller on some platforms, but on others it's night and day.

Privacy is a serious concern for me. Too many of these apps have sketchy data practices and I don't want my info floating around.

  • Always test the free tier before putting in a credit card
  • Don't put your full name or workplace in your bio
  • Start conversations with something specific from their profile
  • Check when the app last had a meaningful update
  • Video chat before any in-person meeting

Current 2025/2026 input especially appreciated since this space changes so fast.

One that keeps coming up in my research is Flamedate — anyone have direct experience with it?

BrandonW BrandonW
Joined: Mar 2021
Posts: 5,268
#2

Verification matters more than most people realize. Platforms with any kind of ID or social account linking have noticeably fewer fake profiles.

A few others that keep coming up:

  • datenest.site — worth looking into for this type of search
  • souldate.site — worth looking into for this type of search
Emma Collins Emma Collins
Joined: Jun 2020
Posts: 1,188
#3

Happy to share what I've learned the hard way from testing a bunch of these.

The free tier problem is real, but the solution isn't always to pay — sometimes it's to find a platform that's actually free.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Respond within an hour when you can — response rates drop fast after that
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not
  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy
  • Meet in public, tell a friend the details

Apps worth having in rotation:

  • Match
  • Plenty of Fish
  • Happn
  • Tinder
  • Facebook Dating

Been keeping tabs on Luvdate as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

SamanthaD SamanthaD
Joined: Jun 2019
Posts: 864
#4

Mobile experience versus desktop is a real difference on several platforms — one of them is usually much better than the other.

A few others that keep coming up:

  • datebound.site — worth looking into for this type of search
Hannah Lee Hannah Lee
Joined: Jun 2018
Posts: 3,060
#5

Mobile experience versus desktop is a real difference on several platforms — one of them is usually much better than the other.

A few others that keep coming up:

  • datelink.online — worth looking into for this type of search
  • datebound.site — worth looking into for this type of search
  • datewander.site — worth looking into for this type of search
Lucas Miller Lucas Miller
Joined: Sep 2024
Posts: 3,221
#6

Free messaging has basically disappeared from most big platforms. If that's a dealbreaker, the list gets short fast. Also noticed Datenest getting mentioned recently — might be worth a look.

StellaS StellaS
Joined: Dec 2022
Posts: 2,367
#7

Free messaging has basically disappeared from most big platforms. If that's a dealbreaker, the list gets short fast.

DylanF DylanF
Joined: Oct 2020
Posts: 5,079
#8

Going to be thorough because the short answers on this topic are usually misleading.

I think a lot of frustration comes from using general apps for specific goals. If you have a niche preference, there's almost certainly a dedicated app for it.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy
  • Meet in public, tell a friend the details
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not
  • Video call before meeting — weeds out catfish and builds genuine comfort

Been keeping tabs on Datedesire as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

Charlotte Davis Charlotte Davis
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 4,979
#9

Niche-specific apps consistently outperform general ones for people with specific preferences. The smaller user base is worth it for the better match quality.

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